Domestic Violence Support

Note: Links and resources may change over time, so please check details directly with the service provider.

Support Starts Here: A Safe Space for Everyone Affected by Abuse

At unPhiltre, we recognise that abuse in relationships can take many forms and affect people in vastly different ways. Whether you are someone experiencing abuse or someone recognising harmful behaviours in yourself, this page exists to guide you toward help, healing, or accountability.

Online Safety Note

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• Women’s Aid – Cover your tracks online
• Refuge – Tech safety

If You Are Experiencing Abuse

If you feel unsafe, controlled, manipulated, or hurt in your relationship, you are not alone. Abuse is never acceptable, and support is available.

Abuse can include:

• Emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or isolation
• Coercive control, financial restriction, or digital tracking
• Physical violence, threats, intimidation, or sexual assault

Support services can help you:

• Understand your options and rights
• Develop a personal safety plan
• Access emergency accommodation or legal support
• Connect with counselling or trauma-informed care

Key Helplines

Below are primary support contacts for select regions to get you started. If your country is not listed here, explore our Full Country Directory or search the NO MORE Global Directory for international crisis services.

• Australia: 1800RESPECT – 24/7 counselling and support
• United Kingdom: Women’s Aid – Domestic abuse services and helplines
• United States: National Domestic Violence Hotline – 24/7 phone and chat support

If You Have Caused Harm or Recognise Abusive Behaviours in Yourself

Acknowledging that your behaviour has hurt someone is a critical first step. Abuse is never justified, but change is possible with consistent effort and professional support.

Ask yourself:

• Do I try to control who my partner sees or what they do?
• Do I belittle, guilt-trip, or manipulate my partner during disagreements?
• Have I ever used physical force, intimidation, or threats in my relationship?

If you’ve answered yes to any of the above, or if someone has told you they feel unsafe or controlled by you, it’s time to take action.

Support for changing abusive behaviours includes:

• Accessing specialist support or behavioral change programmes
• Participating in accountability coaching and emotional regulation tools
• Understanding the root causes of abusive patterns
• Unlearning harmful dynamics to build respectful, safe relationships

Helplines for Behavior Change

Below are confidential resources for individuals seeking to change abusive patterns. If your region is not listed below, visit our Full Country Directory to view additional country-specific programmes.

• Australia: No To Violence – Men’s Referral Service providing confidential support and intervention programmes.
• United Kingdom: Respect Phoneline – Confidential helpline and support for perpetrators wanting to change

Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected. Whether you are surviving harm or working to unlearn it, know that support exists for you.